About Go To Help

Are you tired of doing everything by yourself?  

Do you wish people would give you the help you need?  

Do you get frustrated when your attempts to help others don’t work?  

Go To Help will teach you concrete strategies to get better at offering, asking for, and accepting help. You’ll gain practical insights to help yourself and others get more done with less stress and longer-lasting success.  You’ll learn how to:  

Offer help that inspires others to learn and grow 

Manage when someone doesn’t accept your help 

Reject requests when you’re overloaded 

Ask specifically for the kind of help that’s actually useful

"There is so much to digest in this compelling book and with the impact of covid feels more important than ever. There's really something for everyone whether you read this thinking about a colleague, a supervisee, a friend, a relative , or even a boss. Most importantly these strategies make you pause and think about yourself. I appreciate the integration of coaching strategies relevant for experienced coaches as well as those just being introduced to the basics of coaching. The content is enhanced by the authors` abilities to move seamlessly between personal stories (and vulnerabilities) and quotes from some of the top experts in this field. I've already highlighted pages I look forward to sharing with colleagues."

"In their terrific new book, "Go To Help," the brilliant and amazing mother and daughter writing team of Deborah Grayson Riegel and Sophie Riegel take a deep dive into how we can be more helpful…as well as how we can be more open to being helped. As the saying, “It takes a village” implies, no one can do it alone. And, thankfully, this wonderful book containing 31 insightful and valuable helping strategies is here to help!"

"This book is a double-whammy, stealth two-for-one deal. First it’s full of wisdom about offering, asking for, and receiving help. And aren’t we all on a lifelong journey to learn to do those things? This book teaches how to approach them with tact and grace. And then, as I read this book I realized that within all those lessons about help it’s also a book about something bigger and broader: how to be a good friend, colleague, loved one, human."

"I didn't think I needed a book about help until I read this one. Many of us put on our fixer caps and believe we are helping people by offering to fix their problems. Sometimes, that's not what people need. They want someone to listen or sit with them in silence. They may not want to hear what you have to say, or they are not ready for the help you offer. This book helped me understand why I shouldn't go into the fixer move and instead take a step back and offer specific help. Can I do X or Z to help you? It's best than 'count on me for anything.' What's anything? It can mean many things, or the person going through the problem may be unable to tell you what they need now. I highly recommend this book. It's the book we all need, especially during difficult times."

"The myth of being self-made and unflappable holds people back, and the authors of Go To Help make a compelling case with actionable advice to propel people forward. Just as it can be hard to ask for help, it can be surprisingly hard to provide help well. Managers aren’t trained to offer the kind of feedback and assistance required by the modern workplace that is more compassionate and interconnected than ever before. The authors fill this critical gap with clear and tangible recommendations. During a time of world crisis, this book is needed more than ever."

"As a person who is bloody minded and independent to a fault, I find this so refreshing. I own two donkeys which says so much about my personality! Asking for help is usually so alien to me. In fact even contemplating asking belongs in a different Universe. A huge thank you to Deborah and her book for advancing my journey to one of ease."